Debunking the myth: lubrication

That a healthy young woman shouldn't need lubrication is a myth. So is the perception that if she does, there is something wrong with her.

The reality

Using lubricant leads to better sex. It's as simple as that.

Studies have shown that 70 percent of women say sex is more comfortable and pleasurable when using lubrication. For men, too, having a well-lubricated penis enhances enjoyment and prevents abrasion on delicate tissues.

Some women experience vaginal dryness during the menopause due to a drop in oestrogen, but there are many other reasons a woman of any age might not have optimal wetness levels.

It's a woman thing

The level of vaginal secretions varies from woman to woman. It also changes over time. It can affected by:

● Stress, anxiety and relationship issues

● Dehydration

● Hormonal changes due to menstruation, breastfeeding or pregnancy

● Medical conditions such as diabetes or immune disorders

● Medications such as the contraceptive pill, anti-depressants and allergy treatments

● Chemical products including washing powders, harsh soaps, feminine sprays or douches and perfumed toilet roll

● Lack of foreplay – women usually need more stimulation than men do.

Any of these factors can play a part in vaginal dryness and make sex not quite as rewarding it should be. Lubrication is your very easy, very affordable answer.

New sensations

Even if you've enjoyed sex for years without any additional lubrication, a touch of something smooth and slippery can mean new sensations for you and your partner. While lovers have, over the years, experimented with everything from butter to baby oil, we'd recommend choosing a specially made product that's designed for intimate use. This will provide the best level of lubrication and be less likely to irritate sensitive areas.

So which lube should I choose?

There are hundreds of lubricants on the market, so choosing one can be overwhelming. Which lube is best for you depends on many factors.

Safe and sexy

If you fantasise about romancing your significant other on fancy satin sheets, for example, choose a water-based lube as it will rinse off easily. Water-based lubes are also best with soft sex toys as they won't break down toys' silicone coating. These lubes are versatile, inexpensive, non-staining and many can be ingested in small amounts during sex. They are also safe to use with latex condoms and diaphragms.

Shower me with love

If you love to indulge in underwater sex in the pool or shower, go for a silicone-based lube that won't dissolve easily in water. Only a small drop of silicone lube goes a long way, and will provide a super-slippery feel. These lubes are fine to use with latex condoms.

Oiled up

Oil-based lubricants are generally thicker, silkier and last longer, but be aware that they can weaken the latex in condoms. This may lead to a condom breaking, risking unwanted pregnancy or STIs. They can also cause irritation in women, and are generally messy in terms of clothing, bedding and skin.

Special effects

There are also lubes with enticing flavours for oral enjoyment, or that offer cooling, warming or tingling sensations. Special effects are always fun.

No matter your age or inclinations, there are plenty of ways to spice up your love life and keep your partner captivated. Experimenting with lubrication is just one of them.

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