Top tips on how to buy her a sex toy she’ll love
Buying a sex toy for a woman can be a thoughtful, erotic, sensual gift and potentially increase the intimacy between you. It’s not uncommon for folks to come in store, or give us a call, asking for advice on how to find the right intimate item for their partner. We know that trying to find the perfect sex toy that she’ll love can be a daunting task, especially if you’re wanting it to be a surprise gift, so there’s no shame in asking for tips. It’s what our Sales Assistants are here for after all! Picking carefully and wisely could be the difference between her loving it, or hating it.
Follow our quick tip guide on how to buy her a sex toy and those potential margins of error will be minimised.
It doesn’t have to vibrate
First things first: let it be understood that there’s more in the wonderful world of sex toys than just vibrators. Blindfolds, feather ticklers, massage candles, or even a simple bottle of flavoured lubricant are all great sex toy gift choices.
Options like these are actually brilliant first time sex toys too, because they’re often inexpensive, more discreet than a vibrator or dildo and can be used on her as well as by her. It gives your partner the option to turn the tables and use them on you too, which she might actually find more erotic. It’s definitely worth considering that she may want to give, as well as receive, the pleasure delivered by your sex toy choice.
Go for multiple settings
If you do decide to go down the vibrator route, then pick one that has multiple speeds or vibration patterns. Most vibes – even the smallest bullet vibrators – come with at least three speeds these days. This will instantly give her the option to tailor the power to her own specific desires.
Try to be practical in your sex toy choice. Rocking up with the biggest, loudest, most powerful vibrator in all the world probably isn’t going to be the best idea if she lives in a house share with thin walls and barely enough space to swing a cat.
Think about how or where she might store this lovely new sex toy when she’s not using it. If she only has a bedside or underwear draw to stash it in then a bullet vibrator, or discreet clitoral stimulator may be the best option.
How about noise? If she’s living with others and doesn’t want them to know her vibrator habits then you’ll need to pick one that’s whisper quiet. We’ve put together some extra tips on quiet vibrators here.
Go for a multi-purpose vibe
While some women are all about the clit stim, other’s prefer full-on penetration and G-spot play. But then again others require a bit of both in order to reach the Big O. Well, we never said this was going to be easy! However, there is a solution to potentially have all bases covered.
Classic style vibrators allow for a bit of both. Long enough to be safely used for penetration, but often with ends and tips that can deliver focused stimulation to the clitoris or G-spot.
Alternatively, opt for a rabbit vibrator which will simultaneously stimulate the vagina and clitoris. From this she could experience what’s called a blended orgasm – the stimulation of more than one erogenous zone to reach climax - but more importantly it gives her the option to experiment further with what style of play she prefers.
Sex toys can be made from heaps of different materials: glass, silicone, rubber, latex, plastic…the list goes on. Each texture has its own benefits and drawbacks. For example, glass sex toys feel very firm and rigid, but can deliver amazing stimulating friction and are safe to use with any type of lubricant. Silicone, on the other hand, can feel smooth, warm and be brilliantly hygienic, but can only be used with water-based lubes. Meanwhile, rubber is much more flexible and softer, but might be porous so needs extra care when cleaning.
While we strive to stock sex toys that are free from phthalates and totally body safe, it’s always worth double checking that what you’re buying her is top quality. You can do this by checking the description and Additional Info tab when on a product page. It will be noted there what material the sex toy is made from.
It’s also important to try and find out if she has any allergies. For example, latex allergies are not uncommon, so if you know latex causes her irritation you’d want to avoid any sex toys made from this.
A pleasure shared
If you’re really not sure how she’ll react to being given a sex toy just for her to use, then picking one that’s suitable for couples means you can explore and enjoy it together. This removes any potential pressure as the onus won’t totally be on her. Vibrating cock rings and finger vibrators are perfect as you can easily use them together and on each other.
Need more help?
If you’re still unsure what sex toy to buy her and need some more advice, then you can email us, tweet us or send us a message on Facebook. Alternatively, visit one of our London stores and our expert Sales Assistants will be able to help you find the perfect sex toy gift.