Beginners Guide to BDSM and Bondage Sex Toys

Part of the fun of BDSM is the toolkit you can amass to explore different sensations and pleasures. In this post, we’ll be unleashing everything we know about different BDSM sex toys and hope to ignite your curiosity...

Wrist and Ankle Restraints

Restraints restrict movement and are most commonly worn around the wrists and ankles and can range from fluffy handcuffs to padded restraints that attach to larger bondage furniture. They can be a fantastic way to establish roles during power play.

Whips and Paddles

Keep a range of whips and paddles to switch up sensations during a spanking session. Paddles and floggers create a thudding spank, whereas riding crops and canes result in a sharp, stinging smack.

Use these BDSM sex tools to dish out punishment, during slave training, or simply to give your lover the rosy, warm glow of a whipped derriere. Do bear in mind that when it comes to BDSM play you should always have a safe word decided in case things escalate too quickly for either of you.

Feather Ticklers

Devilishly fun for sensation play, the soft stroke or tantalising tickles of a feather on sensitive body parts can be torture, or a sensual relief from other, firmer bondage tools (like whips and paddles). Take a look at the feather ticklers at Harmony today!

Blindfolds

Covering someone’s eyes with a blindfold is a form of sensory deprivation and will help heighten their other senses. Simple to use, blindfolds vary in style from sleep-mask shapes with elastic to fit around the head, to lengths of soft satin that can be delicately and seductively tied up.

Bondage Hoods

Covering the whole head, bondage hoods are used during sensory play or to conceal someone’s identity. They can cover the eyes, nose and mouth completely and some feature additional zips or openings around each of these areas offering you freedom in your intimate play.

Masks

Another great bondage accessory to mask your identity and create an air of mystique. They can be decorative — masquerade ball style — adding a little style to your session or pretty plain for those who prefer to take the spotlight themselves. During a scene, bondage masks can reinforce a role and help you get into character or, as mentioned, prevent someone from being easily recognised.

Bedroom Bondage Kits

Transform your bedroom into a dungeon of delectable debauchery, even if you’re limited on space. Bedroom bondage kits allow you to temporarily attach restraints and BDSM kit to beds and the backs of doors and they can help with sexual positioning. Check out these specialist bondage bed restraints. You can also get other bondage equipment such as spreader bars and ankle cuffs which are perfect for enhancing your roles as dom and sub. If you want to go further still with your sex life consider installing a sex swing or sling.

Bondage Rope and Tape

When it comes to bondage restraints there are plenty of options available. Both tape and specialist bondage rope are great alternatives to cuff restraints and offer a little more room for creativity and exploration. Another advantage is that they offer more flexibility when restraining to furniture, or when wanting to slip into a particular position.

For quick binding use a roll of bondage tape. It sticks to itself, not skin, so can be wrapped around any area of the body. Bondage rope requires a little more skill and experience, so be prepared to learn some basic Shibari knots.

Nipple Play

The feeling of having nipples pulled and tweaked can be highly erotic for anyone. Nipple play sex toys like nipple clamps, suckers, clips and pumps help increase the sensitivity of the nips leaving them ripe for licks and kisses.

BDSM Collars and Leads

Fitted around a submissive’s neck, the symbolism of a BDSM collar can mean different things to different people. Collars with at least one D or O-ring mean a leash can be attached. This combination can be an enticing accessory that cements who’s the Dominant and who’s the pet. Worn in public, this hint at the power dynamic between you can be thrilling and very arousing. Collars are essential when it comes to fetish wear.

Bondage Gags

Ball gags, bit gags and O-ring gags: all are perfect for stifling moans, causing drool, and putting a partner in a further submissive, vulnerable position.

Worn between the teeth, mouth gags can take a bit of getting used to in terms of the feel. Use these and you’ll need to establish extra safety cues before play like a safe gesture that can’t be mistaken.

Chastity Devices

Designed for both men and women with the goal to stop the wearer from touching their genitals or achieving climax until their dominant decides they can, chastity devices are a deliciously torturous way of bringing you closer together. Often used to prevent masturbation, chastity devices come in a range of styles, with some designed to be worn short-term and others suitable for long-term restraint. For men, a chastity device might also be known as a cock cage. For women, this is more commonly referred to as a chastity belt but they essentially do the same thing so find the one that’s right for your anatomy and lock in. For the naughtiest ones amongst you that like the thrill of being discreet in public, these devices can be worth under clothing for additional sexual enhancement.

If you already adore the feel of being caged in, why not combine the sensation with others like ball stretchers?

Electro Sex

An alternative to vibrators, electro-sex toys conduct a tingling electrical current to provide a different sensation altogether. Depending on voltage strength, electro-sex stimulation can feel gentle and ticklish, or provide sharper more painful shocks if that’s what you fancy.

Some electrosex toys are controlled by a power pack that can be attached to electro-sex dildos, butt plugs, cock rings and spanking paddles and others provide tantalising shocks without being wired up. Also, along a similar line are urethral sounds and penis plugs. Why not check out urethral sounds and start experimenting today?

BDSM Medical Play

As far as bondage gear goes, medical fetish roleplay isn’t uncommon on the kink circuit and BDSM medical play sex toys can really help set the scene. From prickly Wartenberg pinwheels to douches and stainless steel speculums, these items allow you to prod and probe your partner in an intimately erotic way

Need More BDSM Sex Toy Help?

When it comes to using BDSM toys, there’s a lot on offer and even more to take in when it comes to using them. Discover more in-depth guides on each of the above-mentioned sex toys by heading to our bondage section. Get free UK delivery on all standard orders over £40.

For those of you in and around London, you can also pop into one of our stores, where our trained sales assistants will be able to offer more advice.

We stock a wide range of sex toys, silicone lubes and fetish clothing such as corsets, PVC clothing and lingerie. From novelties, Fleshlights, and anal toys to pussy pumps and strap-ons. We have something for you at Harmony to hit your sweet spots!