Guide to Sexy BDSM Collars and What They Mean
BDSM collars (sometimes called bondage collars) are choker-style restraints worn around the neck. Broadly speaking, ‘collaring’ is a sign of submission and sometimes ownership. But a collar’s symbolism can mean different things to different individuals, couples, Dominants and their subs.
For example, a BDSM collar may be worn for practical reasons during a scene but removed once play ends. Or, being collared could mean this sub is owned and protected by a Dominant, so they wear a collar of some form for much longer periods of time. In these situations, a Dominant partner may set rules about when the collar must be worn and whether the Dominant alone can choose when to remove it.
It really can be dependent on the D/s relationship in question. In some dom and sub relationships, there might even be a collaring ceremony whereby a sub is presented with their new collar.
Fitting and Using a BDSM Collar Safely
Most BDSM collars fasten by buckle, or with Velcro. This makes them adjustable to fit a range of neck sizes.If you choose a collar that doesn’t fasten in one of these two ways (maybe it uses snap poppers) then measure your neck before buying to check whether the collar will fit.
When putting a collar on, the buckle and fastening usually sits at the back. If fitting a collar for the first time, you might want to ask a partner for help as you work out which hole gives the best fit.
Start on a looser fastening than you think you might need. Too loose? Then tighten the collar one hole at a time until you find the perfect fit. You’ll know you’ve got it right when:
· You can fit two fingers between collar and neck, all the way around
· You can breathe easily
· You can swallow easily
If you can’t do these three things, the collar is too tight and should be loosened off a notch or two.
Types of BDSM Collar
There are a few different types of collars available to check out and picking the right style to match your mood or fetish wear can really enhance your BDSM play.
Slave Collar
These are the most commonly seen collars. They are made of many different materials, but suede and leather are pretty standard. Slave collars will have one or more D or O-rings, to clip other bondage restraints to, or to attach a lead. Often these ring collars are also locking collars and some use a padlock to secure the collar in place so they cannot be removed easily.
The design of these collars can vary, some feature gleaming studs and others are crafted of stainless steel or leather. The collar you choose is really down to your personal style. If you are looking to combine the collar with other fetish wear such as gags and blindfolds then this might dictate the style that you choose- imagine how great your sub would look on all fours in a studded matching set and collar.
Posture Collar
Posture collars are long, wide and completely restrict neck movement, limiting the wearer’s ability to move their head and look around. This is essentially an extension of restraint and adds to the power play dynamic between a Dom and sub.
Combined Collar and Leash
We put collars on our pets to attach a leash and take them for walkies. It’s the same with BDSM collars and leashes. They allow you to lead your submissive to your desired location (like the bedroom), or they can be used as another delicious display of ownership at a fetish club.
Often, these are high-quality black leather collars or faux leather PVC collars with a D-ring connector. These are great for roleplay and if you have a kink for being controlled by a dom. These leather BDSM collars also work well as an all-day collar and can be pretty comfortable for beginners. If you don’t like the severity of black leather, then you can also get collar and leash sets covered in faux fur.
Some leash safety: when clipping a lead to a collar, never sharply tug or pull on it. This can cause neck damage.
If you like the idea of long-term collaring and require a symbol of ownership that be worn 24/7 in a discreet way, look to items like cuff-shaped bracelets, anklets, or a leather choker-style necklace. These are great discreet day collars that offer a symbolic gesture from a sub to a dom when worn.
Clamp Collar
This one does exactly what you'd expect and the results are deliciously teasing torturing and satisfying in equal measure. Indulge in a seductive BDSM collar complete with attached nipple clamps. Why are these submissive collars fun? Well, every time the sub moves their head or neck, it tugs the nipple chain, causing a self-inflicted pang of pain.
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